Feeling Pain Reading Can’t Hurt Me

From the get go I knew that I didn’t like reading his book. I hated how crass and self-righteous he was, and his tone absolutely drove me bonkers.

David Goggins has written a book, with the help of a guest writer, and it is called Can’t Hurt Me. Truly, this will be a book that will be touted as a must read for years to come. And I knew why as soon as he was done talking about his childhood.

David Goggins lived in abusive family growing up, and then suffered racial prejudice all through college. Hated at home, hated at school. But when David made the conscientious decision to join the military, the book and my interest changed.

Can’t Hurt Me is a fascinating story about a man that simply would not let failure get in the way of what he wanted. And while inflated and flagrant at sometime, the book was immensely powerful in describing the depth of the human spirit as it battles with pain, hardship, and mental callousness.

In many ways, I feel deeply saddened by the life that David decided to live. And I will always see the physical training that I do as inferior to the brutality that he endured, and self inflicted. But what I gleaned from his memoir, for that is what it is, was that we are all more capable than we let on. We simply have to suffer more, deeper, and longer than anyone else – this is what separates the greats from the wannabes.

Highly recommend this book to anyone who is looking for a first hand account of someone who has gone the distance, as a ultra marathoner nonetheless, and wants to hear what it takes to push past your own physical and mental limitations.

Kaboom! Atomic Habits was mind blowing!

After having read The Power of Habit, I wanted to keep going down the rabbit hole. So recently I finished Atomic Habits.

Got to say, I have never read a more detailed examination of habits in my life. It was amazing to see how one person had explored the process of habit building to a point that borders on obsessive.

Obsessive is good, I like obsessive writers.

The biggest things that I gathered from reading Atomic Habits is that there are some irrefutable laws for building and breaking habits:

Build a Habit

  • Make it obvious
  • Make it attractive
  • Make it easy
  • Make it satisfying

Break a Habit

  • Make it invisible
  • Make it unattractive
  • Make it difficult
  • Make it unsatisfying

One of the first habits that I built for my self was that I wanted to take my vitamins everyday. So what I did was I made the vitamins obvious first. To do this I simply left the vitamins on the window sill where every morning I would pull the blinds to open the apartment to the light of day. Almost everyday since I have read the book have I taken my vitamins.

For one of the habits that I wanted to break, I wanted to stop drinking caffeine completely. Admittedly, this was one of the most painful things that I have ever done. But the first thing that I had to do was look at all of the places that I drink coffee, generally at my desk, and eliminate having coffee in those places. It wasn’t easy at first, but undergoing the very unsatisfying process of withdrawals, I knew that I never wanted to deal with caffeine again.

Anyway, I learned a lot more than that, but for the time being, I think that this blog post will help you understand the basis for which you can change your behavior.

What is a habit that you want to break or build up?

What I learned reading The Power of Habit

There is an over-powerful force in all of our lives. It lives deep inside of all of us. This power is the power of habit.

After Having enjoyed the tremendous experience that is The Power of Habit, by Charles Duhigg, I found myself asking, “What did I learn from all of that?”

The book is a massive undertaking, it explores the power of a habit on the individual level, or the micro level, and then expounds or scales societal level, the macro level.

What I learned from Chuck was that there really are three things that we need to keep in mind:

  1. What are the habits that we involve ourselves in?
  2. What are the habits that others involve us in?
  3. What are the habits that others are involved in?

From start to finish of the book I found myself learning about myself, teams, company’s, and social groups as a whole. And according to Chuck, it all comes down to cue, behavior, reward.

Now, these are obviously a stylized way of saying what the science community calls antecedent, behavior, and consequence; but that’s okay. I still enjoyed the book enough to write a blog post about it.